My dad decided he was going to take my family on a vacation that by all rights he shouldn't have, especially the way he planned it. I'm about a week and a half into a 4 week vacation to a variety of places, with my parents, two sisters, and two grandmothers. The problem is that he had prostate surgery about four weeks prior to the vacation, one of my grandmothers has Alzheimers, and the other is beginning to have memory difficulties as well.
I've been made the dedicated person to take direct care of the grandmothers. That is, I share a room with them most of the time, walk them to and from the van, get them in and out of it, and try make sure neither one gets confused and wanders off. Things have happened despite everyones best efforts though. One accidentally walked into the kitchen of a restaraunt. Another decided it would be a good idea to grab a cup out of the garbage can. Then there's the nightly search for things which have gone missing. I have to remind one of my grandmothers, at least once a night that her clothes are not being kept in her room. This is because when they were kept in her room she would unpack them all...then repack them...then unpack them...then they wouldn't fit, and someonee would have to help her. And there are many other sorts of questions that I'll answer several times a night.
Because my dad has had his surgery so recently, we often don't do as much as we have in years past, sometimes very little at all. Though I'm not the most thrilled with it, I've mostly come to accept this, but nala and my other sister are having more difficulty. They're upset about not having a vacation like in years past, and when they ask to do more, it makes my dad feel guilty that he isn't feeling up to it, and so drama of sorts ensues.
This vacation has just generally been stressful, and I'm just hoping that its end will come soon and trying to keep things together the best I can.
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I thought I saw upon the stair a little man who wasn't there.
He wasn't there again today. Oh how I wish he'd go away.
"They're upset about not having a vacation like in years past, and when they ask to do more, it makes my dad feel guilty that he isn't feeling up to it,"
Sorry, I'm confused. They were upset about not having vacation, but now they are on one, and they are no longer upset about not having a vacation like in years past? Or the vacation they are on is not like ones that they have been on in years past and so they're upset by the disparity between the two?
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They are upset that this vacation is dissimilar to the ones that they have experienced in years past.
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I thought I saw upon the stair a little man who wasn't there.
He wasn't there again today. Oh how I wish he'd go away.
Yeah. It's awful when you end up needing a vacation from a vacation.
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"A period"
~~This is what I like to add to the end of almost every sentence.~~
No one needs a vacation more than someone who's just had one. I imagine that goes double in a case like this.
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"If I pick nine, you'd better not be racist against me!"
"No promises, niney."
Well, they're just kids, right? Your sisters aren't that old. I'm sure if they understood what's going on from a more adult perspective that they wouldn't act this way, but for now your dad will have to lean on your and your mom's sympathies, I guess. Be there for him.