Everything is my fault. I don't know what I did wrong, but it's apparently my fault. I swear, girls come from a different planet... I called Gabby today and... She doesn't want to be friends right now and she still has this idea that I like her. And I'm being immature and one-sided...
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Get used to it, man. EVERYTHING will always and forever be your fault and not good enough. No matter how hard you try for a woman she'll always want even more.
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"A special effect without a story is a pretty boring thing." - George Lucas
Since Cheez isn't here anymore to counter Pooty's views, let me just say, as bad as things get, there are rational women. Lots of them! Most of them! The bad relationships will stick out in your mind, but hopefully you'll have a lot more regular ones in your life.
Also, dating in high school is like, the silliest thing. Try not to sweat it.
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Eh, you're probably oversimplifying things. Most stories have two sides to them.
Do the best you can to put yourself in her shoes and see how she feels before reacting. Real problems get started because both sides of an argument tend to feel rational. Sometimes one person just isn't rational. But sometimes both people are rational. People perceive reality differently, and act accordingly. Under this notion, two people can be acting rationally, given their perception of reality. Your perception of things is probably quite different than hers. Does that mean she's wrong, or you're wrong? Probably neither. But you can be the wiser person and think about what reality she may be coming from.
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Even worse is when people feel they're transcendental.
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"Abstainer, n. A weak person who yields to the temptation of denying himself a pleasure."
So just to clarify: are you saying that you guys had a relationship, it ended, you're trying to pursue a post-relationship friendship and she is saying she's not open to that?
'Cause that's cool and you're under an obligation to let that be cool. She doesn't even need to justify or explain that in any way. If she doesn't want to hear from you, just stop contacting her.
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Willis, it seems like every other time you post, I need to look up a word that's in the OED or Urban Dictionary but not both.
-Mimir
Quite the opposite, Wil. Gabby was a 'crush' of mine. I quote that because I feel it was more than a crush, but I'm not sure what to classify it as. She has a boyfriend, and I was very stupid to let her know how I felt. She made it sound like the only reason why she wouldn't date was because she was with someone else (perfectly understandable and reasonable). Well, there was a mis-communication between us where she thought I meant one thing when I really meant nothing by it, and we got into it.
During this altercation, Gabby informed me of the true reasons why she would never date me, saying she's not sexually attracted to me because of my physical features; she likes big, strong men that she feels can protect her. Since I don't fit her criteria, I am not able to do this or meet her needs. Again, it's fine she feels this way. I just don't think she did a good enough job communicating this to me. I was trying very hard to be respectful of her relationship, but there were incidences where she was at fault. She wonders why her relationship bothers me, yet she's sitting there on Skype complaining that Jay (boyfriend) is in a financial **** hole, and she has to pay for him to go to the prom, thus not being able to get the dress she wanted. She confided in me her deep feelings of regret not being able to celebrate Valentine's Day the way she wanted now that she finally had someone in her life. I guess hearing all this made me feel like I could be there for her, but it just wouldn't have worked.
So, for now, she doesn't want to be friends with me because of all the crap that happened. I will admit that I was certainly wrong in some respects; however, she is not taking responsibility for her actions. If she knows how I am whenever we talk about this subject, she shouldn't have asked at all. She knew how I was going to respond to her question, and she could have put a stop to it right then and there. Nope, she didn't do that. She decided to hear me out, knowing it would end badly, and then proceeded to get snippy when she didn't like my answer. Honestly, I was confused by the last encounter we had, and I was seriously thinking about asking her if she was PMSing because it was just so random and out of the blue the way she snapped at me. If she doesn't want to hear what I have to say, she shouldn't talk about her boyfriend to me. I didn't ask her not to, but it's common sense that if you know something bothers someone, you should do the obvious and not mention it.
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I'd like to counter my own previous statement by saying that the women I generally entertain are like that.
Good ones just don't like me. :P
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"A special effect without a story is a pretty boring thing." - George Lucas
:ughh:
Okay don't do that. I mean any of the things you talk about in that post.
To wit, do not:
1) Chase after girls in relationships
2) Offer relationship advice to girls whom you'd like to be with
3) "Stay friends" with these girls in an attempt to undermine their relationships
4) Chase after girls who have explicitly told you that
5) Be the creepy "best guy friend" sitting in the background tearing down your friend's boyfriend because they "aren't good enough for her" (that is not what friendship is)
6) Appoint yourself the arbiter of what constitutes "taking responsibility for one's actions." You do not need to police other people, and other people generally do not want policing. This comes across as though she offended you, but you would find taking offense to be petty or undesirable, so you are instead describing not your reaction, but your (less than generous) reading of her motivations. This is obnoxious and sentiments like this are probably why she doesn't want to talk to you.
7) Ask a woman if she's PMSing.
8) Ask that a girl not tell you about her major relationships because it's painful for you. If you have this conversation, you should not be friends right then.
Look, we all had our awkward teen phases, and this sort of thing is not uncommon. But the sooner you learn that certain behavior has been deemed creepy by society, and how not to do that, the less you will cringe when you look back on your awkward teenage years.
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Willis, it seems like every other time you post, I need to look up a word that's in the OED or Urban Dictionary but not both.
-Mimir
It's pretty optimistic to call Anthony's behavior a "phase".
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"Abstainer, n. A weak person who yields to the temptation of denying himself a pleasure."
It's called being trapped in the friend zone. Get used to it. I know I have.
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Well, there is a new accent of n00b language. It's called: Vet LUEser goes Foreign!-MegaSpy22
Those must be the pants of the gods!-Digitalpython
:ughh:
Okay don't do that. I mean any of the things you talk about in that post.
To wit, do not:
1) Chase after girls in relationships
2) Offer relationship advice to girls whom you'd like to be with
3) "Stay friends" with these girls in an attempt to undermine their relationships
4) Chase after girls who have explicitly told you that
5) Be the creepy "best guy friend" sitting in the background tearing down your friend's boyfriend because they "aren't good enough for her" (that is not what friendship is)
6) Appoint yourself the arbiter of what constitutes "taking responsibility for one's actions." You do not need to police other people, and other people generally do not want policing. This comes across as though she offended you, but you would find taking offense to be petty or undesirable, so you are instead describing not your reaction, but your (less than generous) reading of her motivations. This is obnoxious and sentiments like this are probably why she doesn't want to talk to you.
7) Ask a woman if she's PMSing.
8) Ask that a girl not tell you about her major relationships because it's painful for you. If you have this conversation, you should not be friends right then.
Look, we all had our awkward teen phases, and this sort of thing is not uncommon. But the sooner you learn that certain behavior has been deemed creepy by society, and how not to do that, the less you will cringe when you look back on your awkward teenage years.
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I think wil just owned this topic. That was magical.
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"A special effect without a story is a pretty boring thing." - George Lucas
Haha, I would never ask a woman if she was PMSing... The thought did cross my mind, though. I will say that I have definitely learned from this experience. There's this really hot girl named Amanda that I wanted to possibly date, but she had a boyfriend and then broke up with him, saying she needed to be single. The key difference between the two, though, is I'm really good friends with Amanda's. Gabby's can go fall in a hole for all I care. XD
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Ask her how she feels about Babe: Pig in the City posters
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"...you should try reading my posts being getting all emo." --FoxMetal
Errata: #4 was supposed to read "that they are not interested."
Anihoo, don't date your friend's ex. There are situations in which that's warranted, but I really doubt any of them are coming up here.
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Willis, it seems like every other time you post, I need to look up a word that's in the OED or Urban Dictionary but not both.
-Mimir