From: darknalareturns | Posted: 6/17/2012 4:53:30 PM | #008
Then that gets me to thinking about how i'm too happy that I shouldn't be happy cuz there is all this suffering in the world but then I feel like if i'm not happy i'm being ungrateful.
Eh, one's own feelings aren't a moral matter. Your feelings of happiness or gratitude have no influence on the suffering of the less fortunate. Nor, incidentally, is your suffering illegitimate merely because other people suffer more.
At this point I wanna be an epidemiologist and help people that way but then there is a part of me that wants to have kids and stay at home with them when/if I get married (if financially possible), that makes me feel like a bad person too.
A lot of female academics attempt to reproduce and care for their children without ending their careers. Which I think is crazy (no mortal can be a good parent
and a good scientist), so I'm glad you at least see this as a dilemma. Alternatively, there are applied, non-academic jobs in epidemiology which would probably be much less demanding of your time and therefore make parenting more possible.
i'm not entirely sure I ever want sex which is a problem kinda...i think it's stupid and the only use for it is to make babies which is useful and all but not for me at this point. I just feel like there is something intensely wrong with me.
Well, you wouldn't be the only celibate PMSian, that's for sure. Have you heard of asexuality? Turns out it's a thing. Perhaps you're asexual. Not to say that outright lack of interest is the only reason not to have sex, but it is, contrary to popular belief, a possibility.
http://www.asexuality.org
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