don't know how I have missed this topic. I blame work. Anywho, congrats
Alex and welcome. You'll do very well as a father. I don't know whether
you are actually considering adoption, but I'm fairly certain that that
option is going to fly out the window the first time you actually hold
your child. We considered it as well right up until we met D, and I was
(and still am) rather ashamed that it even came up.
I won't lie
to you. Your life is about to change, drastically. A lot of things that
seemed very important before D was born faded into nothingness
afterwards. I find myself constantly thinking of how my decisions are
going to affect my family and their well being rather than how they
will affect me personally. Be prepared to take the backseat on just
about everything. One of the most important things you will learn about
being a father is that nothing is about you any longer. Nothing.
Everything you do will have an impact on your family. No matter how
small. From decisions on career paths to how much time is spent dickin'
around on PMS (howdy extended absences). It won't be easy, and will
often be frustrating as hell (let him/her learn on their own, you can't
make decisions for them, just guide them when they need it) but it will
make you a better person and will give more meaning to your life than
you thought would be possible.
If you ever need to talk about
something, do not hesitate to contact me. E-mail is best at this point
(see profile) as I haven't been on AIM in quite awhile, though Facebook
would work as well.
who acts like an idiot on this board gets treated like one. If you want
to act the hormone-driven drool-monkey, you'll get mocked for it.