Kodi Arfer / Wisterwood

So here's an "am I being petty" question

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#001 | willis5225 |
So last summer I dated a girl briefly who is completely insane and I want nothing to do with her. Like went around town with the message that I quote "used to hit her" y'know during that three and a half weeks we dated. She is what I refer to, and by I refer to, I mean I saw a character on 30 Rock referred to, as "steal a cop's gun crazy." The end result of that particular bit and the resultant social fallout just sort of mean I don't hang out in my town anymore.

That said, I still run into her at certain public functions (I'm talking about a local 20 something pickup kickball game on Sundays), but I have learned that keeping a constant distance of about fifteen feet between us more or less keeps the drama down. But as a result of these she'll periodically make some overture of friendship, some more completely ridiculously inadequate than others. In particular, every few months she'll send me a Farmville (or Cafe World, for some reason) friend request.

Now, I want this woman nowhere in my life. As a pure humanitarian gesture, I would like to see her fired into the sun where she will no longer be a detriment to herself and others. No, I don't want to be her Farmville neighbor. I don't even play Farmville, but the notion that she'd go within a mile of my digital chicken coop is distinctly unpleasant. Also, I hate her and want her to be fired into the sun, and I feel like neighborship sends the wrong message.

But am I being unreasonably petty? I feel very petty about this.
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#002 | Kodiologist |
Either she was lying and hence she cruelly slandered you, or she was telling the truth, and hence she's now masochistically trying to get chummy with a man who abused her. So I don't see it as petty to pointedly avoid her. If she gets really persistent, confront her about her accusations.

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#003 | HeyDude |
Well, why is she even your friend on Facebook if you want nothing to do with her? Doesn't that send a message?
#004 | ShadowSpy |
Heh. Just click on "Ignore requests from this person" and be done with it.
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#005 | BUM |
I'm sure Wil can deal with the requests, but that he would like to know if we feel he is acting in a petty manner.

I wouldn't call it petty. That doesn't mean it's good to feel that way, and of course, I'm speaking this from an ideal as opposed to from my actual place in reality. But it's not petty, because petty usually doesn't have a good reason for retribution.
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#006 | willis5225 |
Yeah, Mark kinda had the right idea. Although Kodi and Alex, your logic is thoroughly permeating as always, and perhaps a much more reasonable response.

The facebook friendship thing at all is a bizarre sequence of events in which she de-friended me, blocked my AIM, then the next week decided that she was ready to be friends again and accused me of removing her as a friend, as though that would have been an affront. It was very odd and discomfiting and that's why I've sort of let it be.

I suppose the actual issue is that I'd like to send some particularly biting missive, but at the same time that level of acknowledgment would gall me. On account of the slander.

Anihoo, I shall think things through more fully come morning.
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Willis, it seems like every other time you post, I need to look up a word that's in the OED or Urban Dictionary but not both.
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#007 | HeyDude |
So last summer I dated a girl briefly who is completely insane and I want nothing to do with her. Like went around town with the message that I quote "used to hit her" y'know during that three and a half weeks we dated. She is what I refer to, and by I refer to, I mean I saw a character on 30 Rock referred to, as "steal a cop's gun crazy." The end result of that particular bit and the resultant social fallout just sort of mean I don't hang out in my town anymore.

That said, I still run into her at certain public functions (I'm talking about a local 20 something pickup kickball game on Sundays), but I have learned that keeping a constant distance of about fifteen feet between us more or less keeps the drama down. But as a result of these she'll periodically make some overture of friendship, some more completely ridiculously inadequate than others. In particular, every few months she'll send me a Farmville (or Cafe World, for some reason) friend request.

Now, I want this woman nowhere in my life. As a pure humanitarian gesture, I would like to see her fired into the sun where she will no longer be a detriment to herself and others. No, I don't want to be her Farmville neighbor. I don't even play Farmville, but the notion that she'd go within a mile of my digital chicken coop is distinctly unpleasant. Also, I hate her and want her to be fired into the sun, and I feel like neighborship sends the wrong message.

But am I being unreasonably petty? I feel very petty about this.
#008 | willis5225 |
Well, that's a pretty good argument. I think the most compelling part was that you didn't need to bold "Also, I hate her" because there were other statements more illustrative.
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#009 | freepizza |
Marry her, it's the only solution.
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#010 | willis5225 |
...and another one. I *just* rejected one of those. Is it an ambiguous gesture to decline someone's Farmville friend request? I would think it would imply a profound loathing.

And a girl I dated for ten minutes in Canada wants a wooden board for her horse stable. I guess I'm okay with that one, but what is it with this flash game? They should make their slogan: "Farmville: For People toward whom You're Ambivalent at Best."
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Willis, it seems like every other time you post, I need to look up a word that's in the OED or Urban Dictionary but not both.
-Mimir