Hey, guys. So, I feel awful. Let me explain. There's this girl I like that I haven't seen in years. I recently got to talking to her on Facebook, and we ended up sitting next to each other at the movies when we went with a few friends. I have a lot in common with her, we have similar career aspirations, and she's really awesome. I was going to ask her out, but the kicker is she has a boyfriend.
Well, here's the thing. Even though she has a boyfriend, I still like her, and I'm secretly hoping they break up. I learned that her boyfriend is moving to Florida, which could work to my advantage. I was going to casually bring up that long-distance relationships never work out; especially, when you're in high school.
Does that make me a terrible person? I mean, I feel kind of guilty and feel like I'm some kind of worm who's creeping his way in. On the other hand, I don't give a **** because all is fair in love and war, and I'm not going to make myself feel like **** because I have feelings for someone who's already taken.
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Wishing for a breakup is pretty much the calling card of lonely nerds everywhere (myself included).
Instigating a breakup, however...I'll leave that up to your judgement.
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x is an irrational number if and only if the set { nx mod 1 | n is a natural number } is dense in [0,1].
I would try to avoid being malicious, but if she ain't married, she fair game, go and work some magic.
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"...you should try reading my posts being getting all emo." --FoxMetal
I advise that you don't tell her long distance relationships don't work, because she probably already knows that. Plus you telling her that would probably make her mad and kill your chances with her anyways. If she doesn't already know that it won't work she doesn't need someone else telling her. Let her find out for herself. Be supporting either way.
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Yeah, I'd avoid saying that altogether. Look, the essence of a good relationship is support and communication. Love is something beautiful, and it should not be beget by treachery. Plus, she's probably more savvy to your "subtle" comments like "long distance relationships don't usually work out." No one wants to hear that, even casually- it's a direct personal attack.
You can't possibly expect to tell her this and for her to not have a negative reaction to it. Even if she feels you're right, she'll still feel like you're making attacks on her.
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You need to stop being so painfully desperate...
But no, it doesn't make you a bad person.
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"A special effect without a story is a pretty boring thing." - George Lucas
Well, I have good news. I managed to subtly slip the situation into the conversation. I didn't have to do anything. She and him talked about it and decided to let each other go. Now that I know the situation, it's time to actually start hanging out with her. We're trying to set up our next movie. It'll be with a group of friends, so it won't seem like a date. Further, they all know I like her, so they'll make sure we're near each other. CHA- CHING!!
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Be careful. Don't be too pushy. Even if she acts like she is fine she may not be. Just because it was a mutual break off doesn't make it any less painful. She may indeed be fine with the whole thing, but to be on the safe side i'd give her a little time to recover if I were you. That doesn't mean you can't hang out (in fact it might be better if you spent some time with her outside of romantic pursuit so you can learn more about her as a person over all) with her just don't suggest any dating stuff until you completely sure that she has recovered from her break up. But be careful there is a very fine line with these sort of things and if you miss your chance you might be waiting a lot longer than expected.
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life is like a blueberry with lots of seeds inside
Yeah, nala's right. If you're pushy or encouraging things to move along, you will only be losing her trust and making her feel uncomfortable. But if you show no interest or seem impotent, you'll be permanently stuck in the friend zone. Unless she's dense, she will probably pick up that you're into her. Let her make those decisions when she's ready.
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I don't think she's that dense. I tried to be discreet about certain things, but I did give little hints that I was interested. I didn't make it very obvious and say things like, "Well, you never know, we could date, eventually..." I was pretty subtle, but I think I gave some inclinations as to me being interested.
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That sounds good for now just tread lightly until she says something to you that would suggest she is ready to have another relationship
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I'mma go with it's uniformly scummy to try to break up a healthy relationship because you want to get in there. Put yourself in the dude's shoes, realize that's being scummy and meet girls who are single.
If you want to wait for it to break up on its own (because it will; they're doing a distance thing and in high school) go ahead and rock that, but to sit there whispering in her ear that it'll never work is a dick move.
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Willis, it seems like every other time you post, I need to look up a word that's in the OED or Urban Dictionary but not both.
-Mimir
What nala, Mark, and Willis said.
Yay i gave good advice.
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Yeah, that was pretty solid advice Nala.
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Well, like I said, they are breaking up. I just don't know when. It all depends on when he moves. I'm not going to ask her out right away, of course. I learned from my previous mistake. Also, in all fairness, I liked her before I knew she was with someone.
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Oh, yeah... When I was talking with her, she said, "it wasn't even supposed to be official, but we acted like it was." Translation: It's not serious. Hopefully, this means she'll get over him quicker. :D Cuz your man Tony Tone is in da house!!
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I wouldn't be so sure of your translation of us trust me. Half the time we stay stuff we don't really mean. Just a word of warning. It is very complex to explain and I'm not really in the mood to create a wall of text right now. Like i've been saying this whole take it slow and be careful where you step.
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